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Friendships and Faith

How do you define a friend? If you ask 10 people this question, you will get 10 different answers. Some of the answers you get may surprise you. Webster's Dictionary defines a friend as: a person who you like and enjoy being with. Social media defines a friend as someone who sends or accepts a friend request. In a time where social media can make you think you have thousands of friends, the term friendship has been skewed. We think that what you call a friend should be deeper, more spiritual.

Social media has changed our view of friendship. When you talk about someone as your friend, how well do you really know them? Are they someone you have a personal relationship with? Or are they a number on your friends list on Facebook and Instagram? Is your friendship about how many likes you can give each other on posts? Or is it about things that are more serious in nature?

John 1:1 ESV

In the beginning was the Word, and the Word was with God, and the Word was God

We live in a world where people are becoming more and more entitled. There is a culture of being owed something by society, or the government, that has also gotten people saying that God owes them. This mentality couldn't be farther from the truth. God doesn't owe us anything. In fact, it is the opposite. We owe God everything.

friendship and faith

He doesn't actually need us. Before he created us, the world was perfect. There was no sin. Sin wasn't introduced into the world until we came along. Ever since that sin entered the world our relationships have been damaged. Because of this sin, we deserve to go to Hell. We deserve to be punished for our sins. Aren't you glad God had other plans? He sent his son to pay for our sins so that we could have the chance to go to Heaven and spend eternity with God.

1 Samuel 18:1 ESV

As soon as he had finished speaking to Saul, the soul of Jonathan was knit to the soul of David, and Jonathan loved him as his own soul.

True friendship is about selfless love and commitment. If you continue reading 1 Samuel 18, you see examples of what friendship should look like. We see the love that Johnathan has for his friend David. This is a great example of what a friendship should look like. Johnathan's friendship with David consists of love, and what he can give him, not what he gets from him.

friendship and faith

We shouldn't be rushing through life from place to place trying to achieve the next goal. We need to slow down and have time for the people we encounter. How tare we supposed to lead others to Jesus if we don't take the time to talk to them? Did you know that Jesus was never in a hurry? He walked everywhere that he went so that he could come in contact with people along the way. Pastor Brian said "you make time for the things that are a priority in your life". I would encourage you to take a hard look at this in your own life. What do you find yourself spending the most time chasing after? Is it a job, title, money, or is it people?

A true friend will not only show you selfless love, they will help guide you to your God given purpose. They will be truthful and honest with you, and will not lead you astray. As a matter of fact, God is the best friend you can have. He will never leave you, and will never forsake you.

John 6:70 ESV

Jesus answered them, "Did I not choose you, the twelve? And yet one of you is a devil."

Even Jesus had friends. However, he didn't call them friends, or followers, or even Christians, he called them disciples. Jesus carefully chose all of the people he had around him. Just like with everything else in our life, we need to follow his lead on this. We need to be careful about who we let into our life. As the old cliché goes, bad company corrupts good morals. The people around you can either build you up or bring you down. Choose your friends through prayer. Ask God to help you discern who you should allow into your life. Now, that isn't to say that you don't show love to everyone, you just have to be careful who you let influence your life.

friendships and faith

What and who is influencing your life today? What kind of influence are you having on the lives of those around you? If the answers to this question concern you, reflect on where you are spending your time and how that relates to what your true priorities are.

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